At some point in their relationship with their guru, many practitioners will want to complain, “You used to be so good to me, why don’t you show me compassion any more?” What they are actually saying is, “Guru, please be kinder to my attachments!” But your attachment to “I”—a sense of separate self—is your greatest enemy. A true guru will help you break this attachment. If a guru doesn’t dare to address your weakness, it means that he’s not going to help you overcome your sense of self. And if a guru doesn’t dare take you onto this battleground, who will? If you are following a genuine guru, when you feel he is “not compassionate” towards you, you need to do some self-reflection and figure out what changes you have to make.